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Susan Wittig Albert's avatar

A Canadian friend sent me a British saying, "When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and carry on." Yes. Mourn. And carry on. 🧡🧡

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Today we mourn. Tomorrow we recalibrate! I stand with you, Susan.

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Lori L. Cangilla, Ph.D.'s avatar

"Today we mourn. Tomorrow we recalibrate." Thank you for the gift of this mantra, Stephanie. 💕

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Sending love and goodwill, Lori.

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Lori L. Cangilla, Ph.D.'s avatar

Thanks, and the same to you, Stephanie.

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Dennis Patrick Slattery, Ph.D.'s avatar

Beautifully expressed Stephanie. We cannot allow ourselves to be caught in the vortex of violence

that Trump has mastered. We are better than that and will finally prevail.

Love and blessings to you, Stephanie.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Sending you love and goodwill, Dennis. Thank you for being a light in my life!

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Dr. Susan R Meyer's avatar

Yes - today we take care of ourselves. Tomorrow we pick ourselves up and recommit to creatting the world we need.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

You got it, Susan. Be the change you want to see! Biggest of hugs to you.

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Nancy Marriott's avatar

I'll get through the day with your strong, important words. I'm mourning the consciousness that has our country choose what he stands for and recalibrating what I can do to transform it.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Let's be the change we want to see. Together we have a powerful voice. Big hugs.

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Nancy Stordahl's avatar

Hi Stephanie,

Your email was the first thing I opened and read this morning after trying to digest the distressing news that Trump had been reelected. Your words were just what I needed to read: "Today we mourn. Tomorrow we recalibrate." Your succinct words not only brought comfort, they inspired me to write something, so thank you for both. I'll need more than a day to mourn and who knows how many days to recalibrate. We will carry on. That's what Kamala wants. Her concession speech today brought chills and yes, tears. Such a good person who would've made a wonderful president.

Thank you for your comforting, wise words. x

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

"We will carry on." Yes we will. Kamala's speech brought tears to my eyes too. With skinned knees and bruised hearts, we stand strong and move forward. Big hugs and Good writing . . .

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Danielle's avatar

I forget grieving has stages. Just remembered as I passed the baking phase.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

I love this. Thank you for the smile. Although, now I feel like I want to go bake muffins -- nothing like a good pumpkin muffin on a day of mourning.

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Lore/EkphrasticMama's avatar

We baked banana bread (w/ yogurt) the night before the election, just incase we needed something to look forward to... now it is something tasteful to turn to, a small consolation, but still...

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Lore/E-Mama, I did something similar, day after election. Pumpkin muffins. Comfort food. Small consolation, as you say, and still . . . May we always feed each other during difficult times, with sweets and sweetness. Big hugs.

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MizLaTee's avatar

Between intermittent crying jags and running to the bathroom, I'm trying to process this. News is off and I'm making some peppermint tea. Truly a sad outcome as far as I can see.😵

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

A totally sad outcome. A day of mourning and grieving -- and tomorrow we do what women have always done -- we stand in the light of our truth and dare to speak it, skinned knees, bruised hearts and all. Let's hold each other close today. We are a circle of women and we need each other.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Thank you love 💕

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Deep appreciation and admiration, Prajna. Love, hugs and goodwill.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Same, same, love to you.

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Beth L. Gainer's avatar

Stephanie, I also love "Today we mourn. Tomorrow we recalibrate." I am, indeed, mourning today, and the grief is expansive. Tomorrow I will hit the canvas running.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Art in these times of unbearable crisis -- healing everyt ime. Hit the canvas running, my friend. Biggest of hugs.

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Beth L. Gainer's avatar

Hugs back

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Maryann Miller's avatar

Great way to inspire people, Stephanie. Thanks.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Thanks, Maryann. It was a day that all of us needed some inspiring. I include myself in that circle. Hugs.

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Brooke Warner's avatar

Thank you, Stephanie. Wise words.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

We are all holding each other up today. I am grateful for this community of writers. Today we mourn, but tomorrow we recalibrate! Biggest of hugs dear Brooke.

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Jan's avatar

Thanks Stephanie! I was reminded of a Chinese proverb the other day. It goes (something) like this: The student asks the master "What will I do when I am enlightened?" The master replies "Today, there is wood to chop and water to carry. Tomorrow, there is wood to chop and water to carry." Today, we chop wood and carry water and I am thankful for my ordinary tasks around the house. Tomorrow can be the same.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Jan, what you say is so valuable. Thank you for sharing this wonderful proverb. I have a kitchen to clean up and muffins to make -- it's a muffin kind of day, Bless the mundane that needs addressing, as it keeps us grounded in purpose. Today it's one foot in front of the other. Biggest of hugs.

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Kristine Hall's avatar

Thank you for writing this and always sharing your heart. It helps.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

We need to hold each other tight today. With each other we will navigate these new waters. What women do is that we give each other grace. Big hugs my friend.

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Ann Haas's avatar

Thank you, Stephanie, for reminding us to be gentle with ourselves. We do have control over how we treat ourselves. Numb today in aftermath of election but as you wisely advise, we need to recalibrate tomorrow. Hugs/

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

Feeling a little numb myself, Ann. Reaching out to others and having them reach back has helped. We are not alone. We will learn to navigate the new waters and still stand in the light of truth. You are in my heart, dear friend.

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Ann Haas's avatar

And you are in mine.

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Stephanie Raffelock's avatar

I stand with you today, sister. Biggest of hugs.

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